“What keeps people from being successful?” John opens The Law of the Mirror, chapter 3 of The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, by saying that he often asks himself this question.
Cindy and I hosted a leadership networking session at The Top of Virginia Regional Chamber of Commerce last week. This session was designed to provide a group of business owners and experienced leaders with an opportunity to share best practices and compare ideas around the topic of leadership while highlighting the effectiveness of using The John Maxwell Leadership Game in an organizational setting. One of the questions that came up during this session asked participants to make a list of at least 5 people they were currently sowing into or developing. While each member of this group completed the task relatively quickly, that’s not been the case in most of the sessions we’ve facilitated using this tool. Sometimes participants struggle to actually put the names on paper but are eventually able to name far more than 5 as we discuss the topic in depth. But in some cases, the participants realize they just aren’t being intentional about developing the people around them. Don’t misunderstand my point here. These are not lazy or bad people; we don’t make a practice of working with those folks… One common theme we have heard is that they just didn’t see where they had much to offer someone else in the process of growth and development…
That can be a bit of a catch-22! John also says in this same chapter that “People are never able to outperform their self-image.” He even goes so far as to use the phrase “You must see value in yourself to add value to yourself” as the subtitle of The Law of the Mirror. If someone struggles with the idea that they can add value to others, and be part of that person’s growth and development process, isn’t it fairly likely that they may not be placing enough value on themselves to take the steps necessary for their own personal growth? I certainly think so!
John closes each chapter in The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth with a list of action steps for applying that particular law. The first action step for applying The Law of the Mirror challenges readers to “Make a list of all your best personal qualities.” It suggests you don’t stop until you have at least one hundred things on your list. When was the last time you did anything like this? Have you ever? Most of us have grown up hearing that we need to be humble, and often comparing our own worst qualities to everyone else best qualities. It’s pretty tough to think you have much to offer if that’s the lens you’ve been looking through!
So I leave you with that challenge: make a list of your BEST qualities! That list will come in handy when you read my next message.