I don’t think I’ve ever really tried to deny it: I don’t sit still very well… While facilitating a mastermind group study of John Maxwell’s book The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, this hit me pretty hard as we studied The Law of Reflection. I can’t think of a time in my life where I’ve had any trouble finding plenty to DO. But learning to pause has been more of a struggle!
The first words of the chapter are a quote from Peter Drucker, “Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.” One of the things I have done has been to review the details of situations, events, etc. to determine how or where I could have been more effective. So I guess I have been doing some degree of reflecting. Quite honestly, this was usually significantly more reactive than proactive… And rarely have I ever completely STOPPED moving to do this. The past week has been a bit different. I think I could easily argue that I still got quite a bit accomplished, but I did make time to intentionally reflect.
This reflection started when I prepared for a coaching session with a peer (who’s become quite a good friend) through the John Maxwell Team. He and I have a weekly call where we take turns coaching one another. Not only does this exercise keep our coaching skills sharp, it allows us each to have dedicated time to focus on areas we’re developing in. Leading up to most sessions, I usually put together a list of specific actions I’m processing related to a specific event or subject. The last session was different. Rather than looking at something specific, I wanted to review my routine as a whole.
This was certainly not a clean process, at least from my coaching partner’s perspective. However, I was challenged to process quite a few of the things I do daily and weekly to be sure I’m using my time as effectively as I should be. I’m very blessed to work full time with some great people in an excellent company, and that usually gets close to 50 hours of my week. I also have the privilege of growing Dove Development & Consulting with Cindy. While she’s taken a huge load off of me since she moved into our business full time, I still dedicate 30-40 hours to that most weeks. And whether I like it or not, there are still some chores that need to be done around the house each week. After factoring in a somewhat reasonable amount of time for sleep, I’ve found that I don’t often have time to do many other things.
That last coaching session challenged me to take a hard look at a number of these things, most of which I would likely never have taken the time to reflect on without being asked some tough questions by my coach.
I’m absolutely not looking to impress (or depress) you by referring to my weekly schedule. I do, however, hope to give you a framework for reflecting on your own routine.
Life seems to be ridiculously busy for all of us. The question I’ve been working to answer has been “Who’s calling the shots?” I think I’ve been able to work through a few things since that coaching session. I hope these next few messages help you do the same.
Talk with you soon,