Allow The Lesson To Catch Up

Have you ever experienced a situation that was really frustrating, or just plain painful, at the time? If you reflect back to that situation now, can you point to at least one good thing that came from it, and likely a few negative things you avoided because it turned out as it did? I don’t have the time as I write this to include every example that I could offer; there’s been a ton! But every single time I’ve been able to look back at the bigger picture and recognize how much better the end result was than I could have hoped for had the situation turned out like I had initially wanted it to…

Some call those things coincidences, some say it’s fate; I believe it’s something completely different (but I won’t go down that path right now). Regardless of what we attribute it to, it serves a significant role in our growth process – IF we let it.

In The Law of Reflection, chapter 4 of The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, John says “there are some kinds of growth that come to us only if we are willing to stop, pause, and allow the lesson to catch up with us.” For me, the pause is extremely difficult! With an extremely outgoing/task-oriented behavioral style, I have never been much good at sitting still. I’m always looking at what needs to be checked off the list next. For years I’ve heard that patience comes with age, but only one of the two has been true for me!

I can look back at almost any given situation I’ve experienced that just seemed terrible when I was going through it and pull a lesson from it. In many cases, I can also see where what seemed awful at the time was actually a blessing in disguise. There have been times where I didn’t see it until years later, but that’s almost always been because I didn’t pause long enough to allow the lesson to catch up… When I’ve been mature enough to apply The Law of Reflection, the lesson comes much faster; sometimes almost immediately. At some point I may actually realize that the little bit of patience it takes to pause & reflect yields results much sooner! After all, those of us with that DRIVEN behavioral style LOVE results!

Are you going through something uncomfortable right now? Some situation where you really wanted or expected different results? One of my mentors often says “it’s hard to see the picture when you’re in the frame.” If you are, I would challenge you to apply The Law of Reflection so the lesson catches up sooner than later. I’m always glad when I do…

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